Author Archives: ngutierrez82

The Present of the Present

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The world grieves together with Bostonians that have lost their lives and for those injured in the bombing. Sometimes grief is anticipatory, many times it happens unexpectedly to people caught in the crossfire of rage, hatred, and greed.

It is …

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Advocate for Your Partner and Marriage

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Marriage partners are a team. Marriage is a partnership. Lifetime partners are meant to deal with conflicts in unity. Couples must maintain healthy clear boundaries around their marriage to protect from external intruders. However, couples must start by not being …

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Are you comfortable with your reflection?

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Have you ever held a mirror up to your face for a close up? Can you say, “I love you” to yourself, reassure yourself, “I am here for you”, or encourage yourself “I am good enough” AND actually mean it? …

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Forgiveness after Trauma

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Forgiveness. What a loaded word, an emotionally triggering word for some. It means many things to different people.

How can you forgive a person who has hurt or betrayed you? How can survivors of trauma forgive their perpetrator(s)? How …

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Choosing Freedom to Connect to Self

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…letting go of trauma, memories of unfairness, or people that have betrayed and hurt you in any way is one of the most difficult things to do. However, letting go does not mean they are exempt from accountability of their

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Knowing your True Self

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant,

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Shame and Guilt

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It is unfortunately common to experience feelings of Shame and Guilt. After all, during childhood and adolescence many children are told, “You should be ashamed of yourself!” when they refuse to share a candy bar, or maybe fight with a …

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Blocks to Listening

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Great information taken from Couple skills: Making your relationship work (2nd ed.). McKay, et. al (2006) that I implement in couple counseling.

There is much more to listening than merely being quiet while your partner talks. Real listening is distinguished …

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Rosebud Metaphor

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”Healing and wholeness are discovered by opening ourselves up to our inner most self, our true self. Life is like a journey or an unfolding. Imagine the unfolding of a rose. A rosebud is beautiful just as it is in …

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