Category Archives: sexual abuse nyc

Attachment Rupture with Caregivers

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Your mom may never be who you want her to be. Your father may never be who you want him to be. Your caregiver (s) may never be who you want them to be. This is not your fault. You …

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Natural responses to Trauma

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There are so many ways that every one of us respond to Trauma(s) that we experience throughout our lifetime. There’s no comparing our responses to Trauma because we all respond differently, even as siblings, twins, or anyone that has grown …

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Flashbacks Serve to Heal

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When I started my own EMDR work, I was told to expect flashbacks. That since I have started re-processing memories- these memory intrusions would occur. Both my therapist and consultant were right. I have flashbacks in my sleep sometimes. Though …

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Attachment & Trauma

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When we think about attachment- we rewind the tape in our minds and explore how we related to our caregivers growing up. We reflect on how we were treated, what we saw, what felt good and what felt hurtful or …

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Abuse in the name of Culture

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What is violent behavior? I understand violent behavior to be behavior that violates the essence of the spirit. Violence can take the shape of emotional, physical, spiritual, and psychological abuse. It can be passive-aggressive, secretive, manipulative exploitation. It is oppression …

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Grounding Techniques for CPTSD

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I’ve been posting a lot lately on CPTSD, setting boundaries, and how our socialization to maintain trauma bonds with folx that have deeply hurt us is strong as hell. As we know, hurt people hurt people. Wounding is transferred onto …

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Understanding Narcissism

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Many people understand narcissists to be the outright extroverted energy depleting people that are grandiose in nature and easy to identify. Though there is another subtype of narcissists that many survivors of trauma have experienced that are hurtful and dismissive. …

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Culture in Therapy

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In therapy as clients, and also as clinicians, I find it is necessary for us to be cognizant of culture in our work. As clinicians, we can sometimes make the mistake of “prescribing” or suggesting clients do things that bring …

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Internalized Voice after Trauma

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The world has a way of telling us all the ways in which we’re bad and not good enough. It has a way of sending us messages that we’re flawed and imposters of life. 

At our rock bottoms, we are …

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Interrupt your Fight/Flight

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Our Autonomic Nervous system consists of our sympathetic nervous system (fight/flight/freeze/fright/Flag/Faint response) and parasympathetic nervous system (in charge of conserving energy, relaxing our bodies, slowing our heart rates). 

When we’re going through our day feeling triggered, on hyper-alert, and regularly …

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