Category Archives: sexual trauma nyc

Attachment Rupture with Caregivers

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Your mom may never be who you want her to be. Your father may never be who you want him to be. Your caregiver (s) may never be who you want them to be. This is not your fault. You …

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Flashbacks Serve to Heal

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When I started my own EMDR work, I was told to expect flashbacks. That since I have started re-processing memories- these memory intrusions would occur. Both my therapist and consultant were right. I have flashbacks in my sleep sometimes. Though …

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Abuse in the name of Culture

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What is violent behavior? I understand violent behavior to be behavior that violates the essence of the spirit. Violence can take the shape of emotional, physical, spiritual, and psychological abuse. It can be passive-aggressive, secretive, manipulative exploitation. It is oppression …

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Grounding Techniques for CPTSD

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I’ve been posting a lot lately on CPTSD, setting boundaries, and how our socialization to maintain trauma bonds with folx that have deeply hurt us is strong as hell. As we know, hurt people hurt people. Wounding is transferred onto …

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Understanding Narcissism

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Many people understand narcissists to be the outright extroverted energy depleting people that are grandiose in nature and easy to identify. Though there is another subtype of narcissists that many survivors of trauma have experienced that are hurtful and dismissive. …

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Culture in Therapy

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In therapy as clients, and also as clinicians, I find it is necessary for us to be cognizant of culture in our work. As clinicians, we can sometimes make the mistake of “prescribing” or suggesting clients do things that bring …

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Interrupt your Fight/Flight

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Our Autonomic Nervous system consists of our sympathetic nervous system (fight/flight/freeze/fright/Flag/Faint response) and parasympathetic nervous system (in charge of conserving energy, relaxing our bodies, slowing our heart rates). 

When we’re going through our day feeling triggered, on hyper-alert, and regularly …

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Parts we create to survive Trauma

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Your depression, addiction, anxiety, reckless risk taking, self loathing, inner-critic, suicidal ideations are not character defects or psychopathology. They’re strategic, sophisticated coping strategies that were created to survive past painful traumas.

The world has a way of telling us all …

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Understanding CPTSD & PTSD

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Let us talk about the difference between PTSD and Complex PTSD. It’s assumed that everyone that has endured trauma has PTSD. Though there is a distinction. 

PTSD relates to sensory flashbacks that a person experiences when they are met with …

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Intergenerational Trauma

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Intergenerational trauma aka Ancestral trauma. In my style of understanding and working through trauma, I believe it’s important to also consider the multigenerational process of passed down pain, patterns, attachment, ways of resolving/avoiding conflict. It’s important to consider how complex …

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