Attachment Rupture with Caregivers
By ngutierrez82
- Jul, 18, 2019
Your mom may never be who you want her to be. Your father may never be who you want him to be. Your caregiver (s) may never be who you want them to be. This is not your fault. You …
Flashbacks Serve to Heal
- Jul, 03, 2019
When I started my own EMDR work, I was told to expect flashbacks. That since I have started re-processing memories- these memory intrusions would occur. Both my therapist and consultant were right. I have flashbacks in my sleep sometimes. Though …
Poverty Trauma, Institutional Trauma, and more.
- Jul, 01, 2019
I’ve needed to add more to that trauma list of experiences as I’ve receiving even more input from the healing IG community.
Please remember that there are so many other experiences, that fall in these categories, that are similar/different from …
Interrupt your Fight/Flight
- Jun, 06, 2019
Our Autonomic Nervous system consists of our sympathetic nervous system (fight/flight/freeze/fright/Flag/Faint response) and parasympathetic nervous system (in charge of conserving energy, relaxing our bodies, slowing our heart rates).
When we’re going through our day feeling triggered, on hyper-alert, and regularly …
Intergenerational Trauma
- May, 27, 2019
Intergenerational trauma aka Ancestral trauma. In my style of understanding and working through trauma, I believe it’s important to also consider the multigenerational process of passed down pain, patterns, attachment, ways of resolving/avoiding conflict. It’s important to consider how complex …
Intentional Living
- May, 27, 2019
The more I read and the more I learn it seems living intentionally is at the core of this healing journey. Mastering regulating our bodies so we spend less time triggered and activated, more time reflecting on who we are …
What is your relationship to Self?
- May, 05, 2019
When we’re finding ourselves unforgiving of others when they’re unintentionally hurt us, it may be helpful to also look within and see if this is also how we treat and see ourselves. Remember- as within so without, as above so …
Are You Afraid of Conflict?
- May, 02, 2019
Having conflict with others can feel incredibly scary. When we’re raised in verbally, emotionally, physically, and psychologically abusive environments we are told to be obedient otherwise we will experience punishment. Punishment may come in different forms- parental neglect or abandonment, …
Avoid Perfectionism
- Apr, 03, 2019
Do not allow your journey of healing to be shadowed with striving for perfection. Do not! It’s important we not conflate perfection with strength, right, good, great, or progress. That we strive to be great, not to be perfect. That …
I’m Not Okay
- Mar, 21, 2019
It’s hard to utter these words to yourself and others. Just even the mere thought and admittance of this can feel deeply scary and shattering.
We want to show the world we are functioning. We want to show the world …